How to talk to your angry uncle over Thanksgiving
All ten of my aunts and uncles are dead. True story. So, no worries this Thanksgiving.
Actually, that thread about November 22, 1963, convinced me that I will ask all the elders at the table where they were when they heard about Kennedy's death and what that day was like for them.
finnegan said:
Actually, that thread about November 22, 1963, convinced me that I will ask all the elders at the table where they were when they heard about Kennedy's death and what that day was like for them.
Yes, but if one responds, "That was a great time, when only white men ran things!" you can go to Jamie's list 
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https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/11/18/opinion/thanksgiving-family-argue-chat-bot.html
It let's you chat with a conservative or liberal uncle.
Here's the overall strategy:
1. Ask open-ended, genuinely curious, nonjudgmental questions.
2. Listen to what people you disagree with say and deepen your understanding with follow-up inquiries.
3. Reflect back their perspective by summarizing their answers and noting underlying emotions.
4. Agree before disagreeing by naming ways in which you agree with their point of view.
5. Share your perspective by telling a story about a personal experience.
I hope not many of you have to deal with this.